There is abundant scientific evidence supporting the multiple benefits of having healthy sex. Improving your love life will have a tremendous positive impact on your overall mental and physical well-being and, of course, on your relationship satisfaction. Sex is about “me,” love is about “you,” and lovemaking is about “us.” This book is about “us”—you and your partner or future partner—learning to make love 365 times a year, with me guiding you. Making love 365 times a year can transform your entire relationship, bring your connection to an even deeper level, and change your life!
Lovemaking is a beautiful, healthy, and sustainable activity you can enjoy over and over. I have found that lovemaking is the key to keeping any relationship healthy, passionate, fulfilling, and enjoyable. Relationship satisfaction is crucial for your sex life, and your sex life is essential for a happy and healthy relationship. Therefore, your relationship and your sex life go hand-in-hand, and both determine the quality of your love life. By strengthening your love life, you will improve your life experience in general, but to accomplish this, you must work on yourself first.
I often hear that it is easier to remain sexually passive and do nothing than it is to work on building passion. People have frequently asked me if it’s possible to have great sex every day. While I do not think it’s possible, making love every day is. Surely you can make love every day. Therefore, my answer is always: why not? Find out for yourself, unlock your sexual potential, and learn the art of lovemaking now! It is never too late!
What do you need to unlock the potential to make love 365 times a year? The energy, some knowledge, intention, strategy, action, and most importantly: LOVE. Knowledge is information. The aim, work, along with accurate information, determine your power to create a delightful love life and to make love 365 times a year.
Make Love 365 Times a Year: 7 Sex Secrets for a Passionate Love Life is not just a book about sex. Sex and lovemaking are two different acts, with two different purposes. Lovemaking goes beyond sexual techniques and orgasm; it involves love as well as many other variables. This project is an attempt to help you sustain a healthy and passionate love life and to remain connected to your partner throughout time. I am not suggesting in any way that you have risky, irresponsible, or non-consensual sex. I am talking about lovemaking: always loving, consensual, responsible, safe, and pleasurable.
Connectivity, which keeps a couple happily together, and the elements to sustain it, are the basis of my work. I intend to offer you a new and fresh way to view sex: a more sophisticated approach that allows you to make love every day, for as long as you want, until the end of your life, to stay connected to your partner, and, at the same time, grow as individuals.
Make Love 365 Times a Year: 7 Sex Secrets for a Passionate Love Life is an ideal book for you if you want a satisfying, passionate, and long-lasting love life. This book is a guide for adults of any age, sexual orientation, race, or culture, in a closed or open relationship who want to build and maintain a passionate love life. This book focuses mostly on how to do it, rather than discussing why it’s essential to have healthy sex.
For those men, women, and couples who want to make love or want to make more love: I firmly believe that lovemaking is the ultimate connection to total sexual pleasure and the cornerstone of passionate relationships. Being strongly connected will allow you to make love continuously and vice-versa. It is a never-ending circle of joy and love.
For twenty years, I have been searching to find out why most couples in long-term relationships refuse the privilege of experiencing—or sometimes even thinking about—something as beautiful as lovemaking. The truth is that only a few long-term committed couples have a love life full of passion. Why?
Most couples enter into marriage, wanting to enjoy a long-lasting life of sexual intimacy and satisfaction. Yet, statistics show that over 60%—I think even more—of married couples no longer have satisfying, or even existent, sexual relationships with their partners. The result? Divorce, infidelity, loneliness, or the so-called “roommate couples” or “sexless relationships.” As a couple counselor and board-certified sexologist, I can certainly attest to this number. For the past twenty years, I have counseled, mentored, and helped thousands of “sexless couples” to overcome the hurt and bleakness of passionless relationships.
Americans are now having less sex than ever before, not to mention less lovemaking. A recent article in the Achieves of Sexual Behavior shows that married couples in America are losing their passion and are having sex nine times less per year than they were in the 1990s. People now believe that this lack of sex, in long-term relationships, is typical, because our society portrays it as such. Many people, movies and television shows treat the lack of sex in long-term committed relationships as “normal.”
As couples begin to have children or build a life together, they often become complacent and no longer expect sexual passion in their relationship, making it “a stage” or “phase.” Every day in my practice, I help frustrated couples change such beliefs and update their mindsets about lovemaking. To some, this decline seems inevitable, but I know it is not!
I have found that dissatisfied couples share specific characteristics—variables—that prevent them from enjoying their sex life in healthy ways. These couples do not know what they need to work on to improve their love life. So, I have classified these variables into seven different areas, which I call the 7 Sex Secrets. In this way, individuals and couples can identify what their problems are and begin to work on them. These seven variables are the foundation of this book.